How to Deal with Stress in Children

Stress treatment in Children 

Children can also experience stress and when it does not treated properly. It can cause disease physically, emotionally and mentally. So, how do you as a parent know the symptoms of stress in children? What caused it? What can be done to help the child out of stress? are really important for parent in order to give a good treatment to overcome stress in their children.

How to Deal with Stress in Children

What Causes stress in Children?

Stress in children can occur at any age, even from an early age in the period of pregnancy. If the pregnant mother has stress, the fetus in the womb will also feel the same. Fetal heartbeat becomes irregular, so the supply of oxygen and nutrients is reduced.

 As children grow, especially during adolescence, various causes can trigger stress, among of them are:

The lack of the nutrients in the daily diet can cause the growth of the child is not optimal and the supply of nutrients that the body needs is not fulfilled so that the condition can cause stress.

Lack of sleep
Too much time playing or watching television makes children miss the necessary hours of sleep. For children who are attending school, many tasks in school, extracurricular activities or courses that make children lack the time and had to spend extra time to finish their  work so that the hours of sleep decreases. Lack of sleep time can cause emotions and mind of the child to be unstable and prone to stress.

Family environment
The squabbling parents or divorce can cause fear in children. This is reasonable, because a child desperately crave affection of those around him, especially his parents to make him feel safe and protected.

Parenting pattern
In general, parents' pattern consists of three kinds.

 First, authoritarian. The authoritarian parents are not giving children the freedom and force the children to meet the demands of their parents.

Second, permissive. Permissive parents free their children whatever they want even though a child is not able to make the right decision and let the child's fault.

Third, authoritative. authoritative parents clearly define the consequences of any action taken, they do not curb children also did not release them, but continued to pay attention to the child and tried to form independent child. This authoritative pattern is best for the child's personality. Stress can happen to a child when he was not able to meet the demands of their parents or because he had experienced of bad consequences due to improper decision.

Pressure from friends
In the daily interaction, a child does not want to be different from other children of the group. The difference of a child, perhaps because of the physical or characteristics can provoke ridicule from his friends. It also can cause a child to feel stressed because they feel cannot be accepted by his friends

Symptoms of Stress in children

A child that stress can be identified by observing their behavior. Psychosomatic reactions, including gastrointestinal problems, headaches, fatigue, sleep disturbances, and problems during urination, may be a sign that something goes wrong.

Other signs such as frequent crying, the lonely, cranky, do not want to go to school or somewhere, making mischief in the school playground or in the neighborhood, drop in school grades. Even stress can also lead to physical illness in children, such as feeling dizzy, nausea, diarrhea, paralysis due to depression, or other diseases.

If a child has been sick for a long time and after consultation to the doctor did not find the exact cause, then it is recommended to ask for the help to a psychologist, because the disease may not be caused by viruses, bacteria or damage to the body but due to the child's mind is being stressed.

Helping Children Who Have Stress

Because of lack of experience and brain capacity, a child does not have the ability to find solutions to the stress suffered, so they need to get help from an adult to overcome the difficulties they have. so that they do not experience the stress continuously.
If there is an indication that your child is experiencing stress, you should avoid excessive panic because if you panic, you can also suffer from stress and therefore cannot help your child.

What can you do to help your child?

Redefine your parenting pattern

If you have been otherwise tend to be authoritarian or permissive, we recommend that you change your parenting style so that your child does not feel burdened by excessive demands. Instead, provide clear rules, why these rules are given and the consequences if the rules are violated. Do not forget to give praise when your child to be positive, but given a reprimand or discipline when children commit abuses as well as an explanation of why the discipline given and not because the parents hate their children.

Do not make excessive demands

Parents want their children to achieve the best, but do not set a target that cannot be reached by children. Nor criticize or compare the child with other people. Accept a child with all its strengths and weaknesses. If a child fails to meet the demands that you give, do not punish or tease her, but help children to become better in the future. The Failure experienced now does not mean he cannot be better and it does not mean the end of everything.

Create the atmosphere of togetherness and open communication

The closeness of parents with children will help a child open to parents and freely make their parents as a place to vent. Kids can tell the unpleasant incident that had happened at school or outside the home. The old man, as a man with more experience can provide a good solution for children or take the necessary measures in order to avoid unpleasant incidents. This is better than if the child tells the problems to peers or other people who are not right to give suggestions.

Create a harmonious family

Father - mother harmonious relationship, closeness with siblings and other family members to make the child feel comfortable and ease at home help him avoid bad associations that can cause a variety of problems that can make children stressed. In addition, harmonious family can avoid quarrels and even divorce that would interfere with children's emotional stability.

Forms of independent child

A child must be independent in time, because it is not possible for parents constantly watching them all the time. So, help children by training them to make the necessary decisions. For example, when a child asks whether an action is permissible or not, encourage children to discuss what good things and negative things will happen if the child do it. This can help a child if one day he had to make decisions without the help of parents. Independent child will also be able to solve problems and handle it when he felt uncomfortable. thus preventing stress in children.

Give a reasonable flexibility for children

For things that are not too principle, provide flexibility in children. For example in determining extracurricular activities or courses that they will follow. Allow the child to channel his hobby so kids do not feel confined and enjoy activities.

Provide healthy food and enough sleep

Because stress can affect the nutritional intake of children, then serve nutritious meals for them, do not allow them become familiar with fast food, soft drinks, or snacks that are not nutritious. Also familiarize children to eat regularly and on time. Meanwhile, to help children get enough sleep, help children to have a good schedule, determine when he is allowed to play, when to do the work and other schedules so children have time to nap and not to have to sleep late at night to do their job.

Attention and affection from parents needed to help children avoid stress. So, continue to support, train and foster your child so that he can enjoy her days with cheerful.

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